Rebekah, you’re right that the affair had to end. It couldn’t continue without causing more damage. It’s important to note, however, that he didn’t end it because it was “the right thing to do.” In fact, he didn’t end it at all. It was ended for him. In those final moments, he protected himself, not by being honest or taking responsibility, but by disappearing, lying, and smearing me to cover himself.
Nothing is ever just one thing. The affair needed to end, but the way he ended it was not about accountability or truth. Acknowledging that difference has been an essential part of my healing.
I mean this in the most compassionate way…messy relationship realities aside…what if he left because it was, ultimately, the right thing to do?
Rebekah, you’re right that the affair had to end. It couldn’t continue without causing more damage. It’s important to note, however, that he didn’t end it because it was “the right thing to do.” In fact, he didn’t end it at all. It was ended for him. In those final moments, he protected himself, not by being honest or taking responsibility, but by disappearing, lying, and smearing me to cover himself.
Nothing is ever just one thing. The affair needed to end, but the way he ended it was not about accountability or truth. Acknowledging that difference has been an essential part of my healing.